Need a group hug
I am having a terrible week and I just need to vent. I don't know whom to call so I suddenly thought... I will tell my 'zone' crew. They will give me lots of cyber hugs. My daughter is trying to get into colleges for performing arts (musical theater) and she has been rejected from 4 of 5... got # 4 today. And she isn't expecting to get into #5. The nurse just called and said a mole on my hubby's head is cancerous. It's not a serious kind, just needing excising, but cancerous just the same. My 17 year old son, who until last summer was the kindest but laziest kid, has been caught in a huge number of lies (including sneaking out of a friends house after midnite and plagarizing for the 3rd time (Hello teach, you were gunna tell me when?) and so he has run away from home. He is in touch by text messages, but I have no clue where in the heck he is. :wall: I feel like my head is going to explode! Please Pray for us! Snogg :Horatio wink:

My hug is arriving!

Snogg, here's a big, cuddly :hug and some real empathy too. As the mother of a son who was constantly in trouble with the school or the law between the ages of 13 and 16, I can totally understand the frustration. I never knew what I was going to come home to, or who would be on the other end of the phone each time it rang! But now Scott's doing very well in the Army - there is light at the end of the tunnel; I'm glad your son is communicating with you; it eases the worry a tiny bit. As someone who went to Drama school, I can get your daughter's frustration, too. She needs to plug away at it and not to give up - competition is phenomenal in this field - it's no reflection on her that they turn her down (though it will feel crushing to her). You need a tough skin to be in that job and auditions are where you develop it! I wish her all the luck in the world. All the best with your hubby's head too. You are all in my heart and thoughts. And vent away whenever you need to! Hugs Stevie

Ouch, too much is happening in your life at the same time, Snogg. It must be hard to cope. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers, and if you need to vent or a shoulder to cry on, we are here for you. :hug

:hug: Virtual hugs coming your way! Just remember to breathe... okay? It's a cliche to say, but look on the bright side. The mole is cancerous, but at least it's been detected and thus can be taken care of. I hope your son will be back home soon. It's good he's communicating, it should tell you he wants to come back maybe more than you think... and about your daughter's rejections... I'm afraid there might be plenty ahead on her, no matter how talented she might be, but she'll learn a lot from them and I hope she won't give up! Perseverance is the word (I hope it is the word, mind my poor English) ! I only last year even had the courage to try to enter one, got rejected, and here I am again this year, applying! Most likely to be rejected again, but this time I know I'll do better than last time. Maybe next year they'll take me... or the next... or... So if she wants to share the feelings you can give her my email, I believe it's in my profile.

:hug Here's a hug coming your way. I hope that by the morning, life will look brighter for you and you'll have renewed energy to deal with what's been thrown at you these last few days. Has your daughter thought about entering school under another major or undeclared and take drama classes and then try to transfer into the program later? I know a number of people did that at UCLA when I went there, some ended up with almost the same course work as people in the major. I hope your husband's procedure goes well and he heals quickly.

I am joining my :hug with all of the from all of us. I know this must be pretty hard for you and your husband especially with you finding out that the mole is cancerous, and troubles with your son. Thank god they found in a time so it can be treated. And regarding your son I am sure it will be fine in the end I am glad he stays in touch with you by the text messages and I hope that he will come to his senses. Maybe he feels a bit scared but is afraid to admit it. And being teenager he is going trough some things he feels his parents won't understand. I am glad you shared what is going on in your life with us. This is such a loving place and we/they are very comforting for each other. Believe me I know this since I was given much appreciated words of solace after all my hard time.

Dear Snogg, here is a big hugh from me. I am so sorry for what is happening in your live. It is to much. Then you wonder why ? But dear Snogg, do not give up. Find the courage to go further. We will all pray for you. Tell your daughter not to give up, tell your husband to fight against the terrible cancer. And I am sure your son will come back. Just do not push him and tell him he must not be afraid. He has his parents, a house full of love. He communicates because perhaps he is crying for help. So although is it difficult, have some patience with him and tell him your door is always open. Our door is also always open for you. :hug

:hug :hug :hug :hug Dear Snogg, Here's a hug for each of you. Sorry things are as they are right now. I will be keeping you and family in my thoughts and please keep us informed on how things go with your husband and daughter. I agree with what was said about your son keeping in contact the way he has so far, and I know it can't be easy for you now. Maybe just a little more time is needed to do some thinking on HIS side. My good wishes stay with you. Love, Ship

:hug, Snogg. Keeping you in my thoughts and sending you plenty of good vibes. :hug

I knew I was smart to start my thread...
You are all so wonderful; your words of support and wisdom were really such a great help. Knowing others have gone through similar situations always help to see there is light at the end of the tunnel. I can see it; I just know that I have more tunnels through which I need to travel... :knight 1 My son has returned home and we are talking; he is finally willing to admit his responsibility in part of our problems... we (mom and dad) are not purely evil. :flame We have a sort of truce going on right now... he still has a problem understanding why he has some restrictions now... little steps. My hubby is great, just taking care of business. My daughter... my daughter is being very philosophical. We are working on a new plan of attack... (She still hasn't heard from school #5) :drowning And I am doing deep breathing excercises... and today I am loafing! It is really odd how you can feel love for people beyond an electronic screen... but I do feel love for all of you!!!! What a gift the boy-o has given us all, even if he may not appreciate us!!! :group hug I will keep you up to date... Snogg :Horatio wink:

It's good to hear that your son has returned home and you're talking, Snogg, so steps were taken in the right direction to solve your problems with him and his problems with you and your husband. It's also good to hear your husband and your daughter seem to be reacting well to the problems they are facing. I'll still keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers, Snogg. :hug

Ah, it's good to hear about your son, Snogg! As you say, two steps forward, one step back, but at least we move forward. I'm rooting for your daughter - she sounds like a positive, focussed young lady! I hope she enjoys drama school as much as I did. Your hubby is doing the best thing by keeping busy, as he doesn't actually feel unwell. When the mole is removed, it will be a weight off his mind! ( :wink: no pun intended!) Keep us posted, Snogg and moan away to us whenever you need to :hug

I am so happy to hear that things are getting better! Glad that your son has returned home and is willing to talk and listen. That is very important for you all right now. Good that you have some restriction and I hope that he will soon understand that you are doing your best. Especially after receiving the news about your husband. He has to know that you need him now to be with the family. So, your hubby is taking care of business? That's the spirit! He has to stay positive in all of this. And once the cancerous cells have being removed he will feel even better! And maybe your daughter can apply for philosophy classes? After finishing musical theater that is! She mustn't lose hope. I wish her and all of you the best! Love you back!! Love all of you here at ioanzone! Everyone has had the kind word for me and I can't express my gratitude for understanding. I am grateful that I found my way to Ioanonline and now at the ioanzone. But that is all because of one special lieutenant we all love. If there wasn't for Warriors and me surviving this damn war in Bosnia and Herzegovina we wouldn't have met here in this global village to give support for each other. And this picture says it all!! Here's a bouquet of for each and everyone of you!!

Snogg - I'm glad to hear things are looking up for you. Keep us updated. And more :hug to you. Selma - What a cute graphic! I feel that way sometimes.